Over the past couple weeks, while all my grandchildren were together, there were times when it just seemed they were trying to “out drama” one another. A stubbed toe would bring on a sob scene worthy of an academy award. Unfortunately, even though we’re down to only one of the kiddos, the drama seems to continue. This afternoon while the grandson tried to garner sympathy from Mommy, Pepa, or me, I began to think about my own tantrums.
Where do tantrums come from? Typically, it’s all about not getting my way or not getting the attention I think I need. It reminded me of a time when I was part of a church mixed bowling league. One night a couple on our team was unable to get a sitter and had to bring their daughter with them. She was about two years old. As the evening wore on, her parents became more and more involved in their game and less aware of her. Her behavior escalated as she worked to get their attention. At first they scolded her, finally she got a swat on her bottom. Her wails of “pain” could be heard by everyone in the alley. Finally, the mom pulled the little girl into her lap and rocked her to comfort. The girl quieted and was asleep within just a few moments.
What can bring on a tantrum? When things don’t go my way. One of my grandson’s favorite questions is “Why?” Why can’t I have candy all day? Why can’t I play outside in my slippers? Why do I have to take a nap? Why do I have to pick up my toys? Why questions are often accompanied by little feet stomping, all pointing to things not going the way he wants.
How much drama is created in your life when God doesn’t work the way you think he should? How many times have you questioned his wisdom, purpose, or plan? After a very dark time of questioning , my husband shared with me that he learned to quit asking why. He felt that God was reluctant to answer that question, but he always seemed to answer, “What’s next?” The difference is the distance between trust and tantrum.
Drama demonstrates a lack of trust. It’s the voice of one who thinks he knows better. It is the behavior of one who feels she needs more attention. The Good News is that God knows our need better than we do and his plans and purpose, while not always understandable, are always for our good. God doesn’t hand out acting awards, but he does promise to hold us in the palm of his hand, remember all our tears, and count the hairs on our heads. He can be trusted. Surrender your drama and find his peace.
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